if you like him only when you’re feeling weak
and you dream of better men when you’re asleep,
then perhaps the strongest one in you
wants to tell your heart that you can do
without all these warm sleepy weekends, neverending hugs,
neverending yes and nightly wishing good-night.

if you’re feeling tired in a restless way
and you have the same sensation every day,
don’t marry him.
nobody wants you to do it.
he doesn’t want it either and
if he says so, he is merely deluded.
what spark of secret joy
would shine in such unsecret disguise?
which hero in your army
would approve of your refusing to get wounded?

if you think true life is in a different city
and you see no truth in marrying out of pity,
don’t marry him.
there are better reasons
you may not even know.
there may be more comfort on the streets
than in a sorry place to rest your feet.